Let’s love men

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A male friend commented on a recent post I did on “One Billion Rising” – a movement acting to stop and raise awareness on violence against women and girls – saying that he HATES MEN. Through an emoticon he then expressed his sadness about the behavior of (some) men. This is my answer:

Beautiful friend, please LOVE MEN and thus – love yourself. I do as well, as much as I can, more and more every day. I honor and cherish every man who has the courage to dive into their emotions and other spaces that has been just as prohibited for them as, for example, political power has been for women in our history.

So many men are exposed to violence every day, most often (even if not always), men are and have been the vast majority of soldiers in every war since at least 6000 years. On top of that, they have been, and – globally – often still are, kept from having deep and meaningful relationships with their children.

More than often, men have also carried the role of enforcing our strange laws and cultural habits, themselves forced by social contracts and the pressure to provide food, shelter, money – not for only themselves but also for their families, tribes, wider community, country… How often have not priests, lawyers, kings, knights, noblemen, politicians, chiefs, husbands, fathers been (felt…) forced to act against their own hearts, against their inner child, against their intuition – against the very things that make us human – to do their job.

Men also suffer greatly under expectations. We often talk about how many roles a modern woman is expected to fulfill – what about the men? There are expectations on them to be that strong warrior, the gentleman (but not too much, it can be considered provocative), have a well trained body, have a well-paid job that preferably also should be exiting and impressive, travel (preferably to exiting places doing smth dangerous) AND take care of their children, spend a lot of time with their significant other, etc etc.

I could go on but I am tired…. (I wrote this just before going to sleep).

But I wanted to write this, to myself and to you, to just say – lets LOVE MEN. Lets forgive and forget. Lets release our old stories and write new ones. Lets discover – beneath our stories and cultural interpretations – what it really means to be a man and what it means to be a woman.

I think that the disrespect and aggression that some men show towards women, as well as their own children, only mirrors their inner pain and the aggression and disrespect that they are shown and have been exposed to themselves.

I deeply honor all the amazing men in my life, so many of which are in a deep, courageous, conscious and heartfelt process of healing their patterns and themselves. You are one of them.

Love yourself 🙂
Big hug!

(The text above was written after One Billion Rising 2016, just found it today as a “memory” reminder generated by Facebook. Below a quote from a good article about men and feelings.)

“Just because men aren’t adept at expressing their feelings, don’t for a minute think they don’t feel, and feel deeply. Many times, men express their feelings using a secret code—a code that even they can’t decipher.

Men may convert one feeling into another. Men may convert stereotypically feminine feelings, such as sadness or vulnerability, into feelings like anger or pride—feelings more socially acceptable for them to experience.”

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-the-questions/201401/how-crack-the-code-men-s-feelings

 

reflections on karma and practising unconditional love in the real world

Giving and recieving - image from Wikipedia

The discussion about Unconditional Love and Dark Beings is continuing on the Evolver-forum, and someone asked me how does living in unconditional love – or True Love as I call it – fit with living in the real world, without be taken advantage of. He continued saying that Karma is such an un-fair idea, that he detested the idea that we are suffering as a punishment for something that we have done earlier, and wondered if one then should tell a victim of abuse that they are just learning a lesson which they deserve and should love their abuser. Here some reflections on this:

When it comes to Karma, I think that this is a very misused concept, trivialized into some kind of punishment circle by our dominant institutions. How do we know that it is a punishment for a soul to suffer? Seriously – how do we know anything? How can we be sure that even the worst murderer cannot be “faster” (in the time dimension) enlightened that you, because suddenly it says click in this Being?

This is not at all saying that I promote that people should suffer, or murder, but that we really do not know anything for sure while walking in this Existence. Therefore I think that interpreting Karma is a very tricky issue easy to be mistaken on, even for an Enlightened Being, I imagine. I think that as A Being one is always “limited” to (or blessed with) interpreting of the Experienced, and no matter how accurate they are, these interpretations will always be faulty.

When it comes to interacting with other people I see it best to act according to our nature – which I believe to be True Love in Freedom, and here in this Existence we are evolving to exist as One-and-Apart in True Love. Please bare with me through abstract thoughts and I’ll get back to the practical ones:

Put into words, I believe that we were once One True Love and we wanted to Experience Loving. But only a truly free and thus open Being can vibrate in True Love, and the different Universes – Existence – are experiments around finding this. To do that we split up in unique pieces, free pieces – this is difficult, and I think what we Experience here on Earth right now is “finding our way” – which means making a lot of mistakes.

I think every time you walk into life you go through this transformation of being One becoming One-and-Apart, including when you go through a re-birth process while living, you re-experience this process. I see these re-experiences as steps in refining this process as a whole – and the “goal” is to Love each other, all the time, truly, even if we are a part.

At the same time, we are always at “the goal” – One-and-Apart in True Love as well as True Love as One, since at one level Time does NOT exist. I by the way believe that Experience always exists, and can be achieved with our without time.

By the way – do you know that there are scientists in theoretical physics that think that we are creating our Universe by sending signals back to the time to before the big bang, where all laws of physics brake down? This is what I am talking about – maybe this is how we create our reality, finding the way to express, vibrate in True Love with each other. I wrote more about this here, just some notes really:
https://florries.wordpress.com/2010/03/06/on-creating-reality-by-our-thou…

So – now finally =) – on a practical level this perspective brings with it the consequence that one can see how everyone are struggling to find their way to Freedom to get to vibrate in True Love – we all feel this way. And since we all feel this way, no one is really doing anything wrong or bad – they are just expressing “problems in our system” that need to be met.

Facing this can be difficult, and one can need help with it, and I think we should help each other in such situations and see it as an exercise in reaching freedom in True Love. In doing so, we promote our own True Nature. Therefore someone who is suffering is not only learning, but giving us an example – and a chance to help someone to freedom. Through helping we them we also help ourselves to freedom, not only because we are one but because such an experience can be very illuminating and help you understand your own process.

Now, with “someone who is suffering” I mean both “victims” and “offenders”, since they are both suffering from not being Free in True Love, although they might need to be helped/supported/inspired in different ways to become free. Maybe sometimes people even will be locked up because others experience them as too much harm – and I see no real bad thing in doing that. But imagine for a second a prison system who is inspired from seeing All as One in Unconditional, True Love – a place which truly works with love and compassion to free its inhabitants from beings slaves under their disturbed emotions…

So do we “deserve” the suffering we get in life? I think basically that we only deserve True Love and Freedom, in transformative peace. But I believe that on one level we have chosen to go through this process to become One-and-Apart in True Love.

I am writing on a theory called The Theory of the Blooming Society and the Positive Multitude which talks about this in a more scientific way, using deductive logical argumentation and science to talk about what we gain on loving each other

– so “I’ll be back” like we say in Austria – quite soon actually =)

I accept that the answer to the question “who am I?” is eternal

On unconditional love and dark beings

Photo by my beloved husband Volkmar Geiblinger

Today I woke up seeing that the Evolver networks Facebook-admin had asked the question – what is unconditional love?

Further down among the comments the Evolver-admin wrote:

“Our idea of “unconditional love” may be based on certain ideals of certain religious dogma that may be unhealthy… or ideals, or even ideas (as John Lash proposes in his book ‘Not In His Image’) implanted by entities that do not have our best interests at heart. Lash believes the Gnostics knew of these entities and referred to them as “Archons.”

In answer to this, as well as in the light of the recent discussions on Dark Beings here on Evolver, I wrote the following answer – my point of view, here a bit better edited than on Facebook =)

The only condition there is to be loved is to be alive in the broadest sense imaginable of the word – I for example consider dead people to be alive – energy transforms into something else, it does not disappear.

We are all one, connected, even science shows this these days. So we love each other unconditionally whether we want to or not.

I see it more like that “they” – the Dark Beings, Archons, whatever the right name is, whatever they are, if they are real or just an idea – a symbolical interpretation of something that is going on in our mind – “they” have fed on our inner nature, our will to Love.

Many shamans describe the experience of meeting Dark Beings, or Inorganic Beings – a kind of alien race or a for us simply incomprehensible existence with a consciousness, that dominates us because we allow them to. Other cultures calls this demons, although according to some shamans mean that demons exist beside the Inorganic Beings as a separate kind of “evil”. According to shamanism the freedom from this dominance goes through the right way of living – more or less, living in radical freedom as a healed person.

Let me just say that I am quite open to the idea of Inorganic Beings because of my own experiences, and I lean to the “energy that we do not understand”-viewpoint. I also think that no matter what one thinks of this, I think that many can agree upon that our dominant societal systems, religions and/or these beings, programmed us/manipulated us or just foolishly fooled us to think that love equals some kind of comfortable, romantic, or at least verifying feeling .
– kind of saying “I verify your existence and you are perfect as you are”.  I think we are imperfect and “perfect” True Love as we are! There is a slight but important difference here – the latter is more connected to an existence in transformation.

“Non-transformative verification” is a part being a believer in a fairly static world with rigid structures – like those in our still quite dominance, authoritarian and punishment ruled society where good is good and evil is evil and the one is only rarely transformed into the other. In reality I think that we are in constant transformation from the one to the other. Living in radical freedom and impeccability releases the self from these structures, and thus releases the inner Nature – which I believe to be True Love.

True Love and equals to something like Openness – and I believe that this is the true nature of All. It can transform, hurt, feel like someone is ripping out a bad tooth, etc… It can also feel completely overwhelming, ripping one apart just to put all back together again… and it can feel like, or maybe better said, be complete Bliss.

With this Love we CAN love our “enemy” without feeding them our energy – because when we are open in this way, we don’t “romantically love” them or reinforce their existence, no:

we vibrate with that in them which is the same True Love – vibrating with openness – and then they hurt badly – or at least they stay far away. OR, I believe, they can even transform, if one vibrates “hardcore True Love”.

In Magic there is “there is no spoon”. In True Love there is just True Love.

This is my belief, my experience, my medicine if you like.

Thinking like this has made me ponder on, that if we do let ourselves be eaten because we imagine that we cannot control our power or, in more mundane words, we let our minds be uncreative because of fear, this might be our pepping to not give up on evolving until we master radical freedom in True Love – openness. Maybe this is why evolution of Existence, or the larger plan or (…) has evolved Inorganic Beings – to push us towards being free, or just to keep us from having to much power before we are truly Free Beings –
or for us to follow our own inherent wish for freedom and explode in True Love to achieve it.

Let me add: all I know is that I know nothing – and I admit that Dark Beings could be a construct of the mind, or aliens, or demons, or energy that we have misunderstood, or Archons or…  Sometimes I think of this as the Nothingness in Fantasia in The never-ending story =)


we are true love as one evolving into being as one-and-apart in true love

we are One True Love evolving into being One-And-Apart in True Love

we are One True Love evolving into being One-and-Apart in True Love

Very simply put, I believe that Existence is True Love as One becoming True Love as One-and-Apart, where every part has free will and is unique. I believe that every part of Existence is helping all the other parts to reach more understanding of Existence, and through that, we will all be able to live freely according to our true nature, which I believe to be True Love.

When it comes to True Love I feel this as a force which comes from the very core of Existence, and it is both light and darkness – it is the true nature of All. I had a vision once picturing this force as a mass of stars and darkness flowing out of something which seemed like a “black hole” in a spiral kind of formless form. With this vision came a deep sense of true LOVE – and I really cannot find the words to describe that, but it has to do with openness.

So far we are still suffering a lot of “birth-pain” in the process of becoming One-and-Apart in True Love, but I think that this is changing, at least in our part of the Universe, but maybe in our entire Universe or even the Existence as a hole – who knows – and that this is what is bringing us the so called New Age.


we are One True Love – spirit and mass – evolving into being One-and-Apart in True Love in constant chaotic beautiful order

Twitter version: we are #One #True #Love#spirit #and #mass – evolving into #being #One#and#Apart in #True #Love in constant #chaotic #beautiful #order


Here a fairytale I wrote about this in 2003:

THE FAIRYTALE

“Once upon a time there was True Love in the middle of Nothing. True Love was full of joy and harmony, but it was lonely, it had no one to share everything with.

So True Love made a hard decision, and split itself into billions and trillions of pieces, screaming of pain, but also singing in joy! Because True Love knew, that once all the billions and trillions of pieces had fallen into harmony, it would be able to see and love itself as the wonderful creation that it is! And it would never be lonely again.”

For Spanish and Swedish version click here